My Doctor Asked Me Why I Didn’t Let My Brother-in-law Impregnate Me – Nkubi Wife

In a heart-wrenching revelation that has sparked widespread discussions on discrimination and societal biases in Nigeria, Vivian Nwaogu, wife of popular Nigerian actor and media personality Victor “Nkubi” Nwaogu, has shared the insensitive advice she received from medical professionals during her pregnancy.

The couple, who welcomed their daughter Soromtochukwu in recent years, faced not only medical challenges but also spiritual insinuations and online trolling due to the child’s condition of dwarfism, which is shared by her father.

Speaking during an emotional interview alongside her husband on the popular show “Pulse One on One”, which was uploaded to YouTube on Wednesday, Vivian recounted the discouraging encounter with her doctor after an abnormality scan.

“When I did my abnormality scan and handed it to the doctor, the doctor was like, ‘Does anyone have any trait of dwarfism in your family?’ I said yes, it was my husband,” she explained. The doctor’s response left her stunned: “Why didn’t I go to my brother-in-law or go outside to get pregnant instead of getting pregnant for my husband? Or even get a sperm donor.” Yes, that is what a doctor told me. They’re not given equal rights in this country.

Vivian, who has been married to Nkubi since 2021, highlighted how such comments reflect deeper issues of inequality and lack of empathy towards people with dwarfism in Nigeria.

Nkubi, known for his roles in Nollywood films and his work as a media personality, has often spoken about living with achondroplasia, a common form of dwarfism. The couple’s decision to start a family was met with optimism, but the pregnancy journey exposed them to professional biases that Vivian described as traumatic.

Adding to the ordeal, Vivian shared a disturbing incident at the Lagos hospital where she delivered Soromtochukwu. A nurse, upon seeing the baby’s size, suggested the issue was “spiritual” and recommended seeking help from a pastor.

“There’s this nurse in the hospital who traumatised me after birth care. She told me this is spiritual and said she has a pastor. That her pastor can pray for my daughter, and she can be tall,” Vivian recalled.

She added that the nurse even cited an example:

“She gave me an instance that one of her friends gave birth to a little person, and they took her to that pastor, and the pastor prayed, and the baby got tall.”

This left Vivian distressed throughout her postnatal period, questioning the training and sensitivity of healthcare workers in one of Nigeria’s major cities.

The challenges didn’t end in the hospital. When the couple finally introduced Soromtochukwu to the public via social media, they were bombarded with online bullying and harsh criticisms.

Vivian explained that they delayed the unveiling because the baby fell seriously ill at three months old, spending seven days in a coma.

“A lot of people were telling us that we were hiding this baby, but she was ill when we gave birth to her… We’re ready, but sometimes it hurts when you see those comments. I felt so sad,” she said.

In response to the trolls, Vivian has taken to posting screenshots of abusive comments on her page to call out the behavior, emphasizing how heartbreaking it is for any parent.

This is not the first time the family has faced public scrutiny. Recent incidents, such as a viral post comparing Soromtochukwu to a “Labubu” toy, led to massive backlash and an apology from the poster, highlighting ongoing online harassment against the family.

Social media users and celebrities, including filmmaker Seun Oloketuyi, have condemned the bullying, noting that insults directed at the child and her father are “getting out of hand.”

Vivian’s story sheds light on the broader struggles faced by families dealing with dwarfism in Nigeria, where misconceptions, spiritual attributions, and discrimination persist despite medical advancements. Advocacy groups like the Little People of Nigeria have called for better education and inclusivity in healthcare and society at large.

As the interview continues to gain traction online, many Nigerians are rallying in support of the Nwaogu family, praising their resilience and love. Nkubi and Vivian remain committed to raising awareness, turning their personal pain into a platform for change.